keep things clear and equal...

It is always better to keep everything clear and equal... especially in relationship...
I've learnt today that when one party keeps giving and the other party keeps receiving, dissatisfaction and discontent will sooner or later arise, no matter how loving they are...

The reason I say so is because there is no equilibrium in this giving and taking...And to have a healthy relationship, both parties need to give and take in equally... So, don't just take nor just give blindly...

I used to think that receiving from my other half is okay because that's a show of love and care. However, I realized today that it is not the case. When problems arise or when arguments take place, it will become one of the topic to be discussed. And guess who will have the upper hand? Of course the giving party. Why? I bet you know the answer. The giving party will just blame that the receiving party that "you are SELFISH!". And that's it. You have nothing to say if you are on the receiving end.

Therefore, I learnt that it is better to be clear and equal especially when monetary issue takes place. Whether it is everyday's spending when we go out together or receiving gifts from you other half, be sure to be equal so that no one is to be blame when comes to the topic of who gives more and who being more selfish than the other. A very good example is as below:

A: Don't talk about others. Look at yourself. You can't even take care of yourself. <--- personal attack out of no where, or perhaps out of frustration...
B: Who say so?! I will earn more money from now on so that I can buy (so so so and so.....) <--- dream big

A: (Sigh) I think I need to save up too. So stop using your "never bring wallet" excuse everyday. <--- accuse B for being selfish (+ stingy, sort of)...
B: .... (speechless)

(the discussion goes on and on revolving around issues of selfishness and human's nature...and end with the following line)

A: Don't know how your mind is thinking...... I think you will act very selfish too when you have no choice..... <--- again accusing others
B: .... (speechless again) <--- never thought that the person next to him will spill out those harsh words onto his face directly...


A walks away leaving B speechless by his own...

I'll choose be more alert from now on when comes to this issue of give and take. As human by nature is selfish to some extent, some will act selfishly in their everyday life while some other will just spilled out words that reflects their selfishness (if they don't act it out). In short, as I mentioned in the previous post, be independent and don't rely on anyone of anything :)

Self sufficient, please!

 (slap myself for realizing all this only at this moment!)

-j

deeply mesmerized...

This is one of the song which was in my favorite list for soooo long. I like her mesmerizing and sexy voice and the meaningful lyric so much.

Usually we keep thinking what will be the end result of everything we do or involve in. However, the most important aspect of it, which is the journey is often forgotten. Why are we so obsessed with the ending? If we learnt to enjoy the journey, it will be wonderful too, right? If the end results are out of our control, let's just focus on things that we can control! As saying goes, lives NOW, not the past nor the future. When the ending comes, be it to our expectations or not, at least we had some enjoyable moments to be kept as memories. Of course everyone wishes for a happy ending, and if it does come, it will be an extra add-on! But when it's not the case, then you are still leftover with the good feelings and memories which you go through!

So, from now on, let us work hard while enjoying the journey  :)

cheers! have a good weekend ahead!

-j

lessons learnt...

Lesson of the day... be independent! hehe... Guess why I say so? Well, if you are not, then you are limiting yourself to the one you are depending... be it career or personal life. If you want to have full control of it, try to make yourself independent and self sufficient. That way, you can explore the bigger world! Don't ever restraint yourself to any limitations!

I've come to realize that depending anyone for anything is kinda suck (big time). When troubles come and everyone care for their own, you will be in big mess! No one is gonna care for me as much as I do myself... (well, maybe my family members will, hehe) Afterall, that's human nature. Everyone for themselves :)

Apart from that,  another lesson learnt is don't assume everything you see is the reality. Illusion and reality are sometimes mixed and confused as they can be easily manipulated. Be more assertive and alert...! 

Another lesson learnt will be, things won't remain unchanged forever...And when they changed, you have to flow with it. Be it to your preference or not, you have no choice. Don't ever stay in status quo as it only makes you lose your competitiveness over time when everything surrounding you are changing or improving!

To cut everything short, control your life yourself!

well, things might sound so gloomy from my perspective, but that's what I learnt :)

Oh ya, I just received the 'behind the scene' photos of the photoshoot which I did with Christopher Lee as his son yesterday! Haha... it was a fun session... 

-j

a regular day...

Got up on 11 am today. It's still quite early (you guess) if you know me well. Haha.. well, that's one of the changes over time that happened. No more sleeping too much! No more after 12pm! :P

Been pretty laid back this few days... usually, I wake up on 9am+ or 10am+ and prepare to start my boutique. But I needed a break desperately, so I'm taking it easy... Less stressful and more time to think about everything ... been pretty tiring and exhausted after going through so much...

Did I tell you my mum got a minor accident at her workplace? Yes, she slipped down and got head injury. When she called me crying, I was so nervous and worried! Rush to her workplace and bring her to the clinic... and guess what... the doctor advised us to go A&E of Tan Tock Seng Hospital!! jezz...  Luckily after everything done, X-ray and such.... she is all fine now... Up and running! hehe.. thank god for that..!

Back to my life... on a regular day, I would wake up, wash up... and prepare to go to work! What's my job now? Well, I have to go 'see see look look' (as chinese saying) at the boutique! :) When I'm there, I'll go around, clean up the mess and dirt which are piling up so FAST!.. sweep the floor... and tadaa it's ready for business... sit & wait for my first customer of the day... during which I will do some workout - push ups, roll and roll the floor rolling thingy.. (sorry, I don't know what it's name, haha) ...and rest around, surf the net to see what's new in the world...!  when the clock ticked to 7pm, I'll pack everything, and go off! You might think why a retail shop closes that early.. so let me tell ya... I'm just lazy! hehe...

On the evening, well, there is no fixed schedule on what to do... either head straight home to rest, or go walking around.. Nothing really interesting to do in Singapore! -_-! don't you agree?! perhaps it's my small social circle... but I'm quite satisfy with this kinda lifestyle :P

bye for now!~

-j

Back to blogging..

It's time! Back to blogspot after a year of hiatus. A lot of things going on lately with no where to voice out my feelings, I figured out that blog is one of the way to do so :) at least I still have this small little space of my own..

Now based in Singapore.. for almost a year now since my last update.. A lot of changes happened, be it good or bad and every changes helped me to be a better man than I was before.. And mostly are the perspective on how I view things (at least I think so)..

Left modelling for a while now or I may say doing it in a part time basis.. Focused more on the new (half year old) fashion boutique targeting ladies markets.. Never thought that I would involve in this kind of industry before that.. But, I'm in it now.. So, come what may!

Will update on a regular basis from now on.. So, you who are interested to know more may stay tune!